It always sucks to have a tiff with your kids. Sometimes it seems we cant help but annoy each other but there are certainly times that it comes as a big surprise apparently just how annoying I am. This last week I have sensed tension between Lisa and I and have tried to be cautious about what I've said, I know its rough with the business right now and then she said she started taking sam-e and gave up diet cokes so I was like OK shes a little tense. I had even texted her during the week to see if she was mad at me, she said it was me who she thought was mad but I guess I have hurt Lisas feelings with a comment I made about sometimes you have to choose whether big business or keeping it small is right at what time in your life. She insists I said she didn't have a head for big business and that I hurt her feelings and that I act like I will never help her with the business again. I'm not sure where all that came from, but the one thing I have learned is that one feels and believes what they feel and believe. I've invested a tremendous amount of time and certainly some money into the shop, and I know Lisa has become very defensive towards everyone regarding the shop including people she used to like, like Maria and Christina.
Today it came to a head when she wanted me to call her and tell her what I found out from the realtor. Of course when I told her we were going to try to get a loan she related all the reasons she has read that we wouldn't get a loan. I did get irritated, I read to, I'm not senile and the last time I checked I was pretty smart. I told her maybe so but I wouldn't know if I didn't try, this pretty much set her off that I had been rude to her all week and she proceeded to pour fury in the way that my red head does.
For the record I couldn't be prouder of what Lisa has accomplished, and its her anger at herself that she can't do it all not my feeling. I think shes making the right choice not because she doesn't have a head for BIG business but because she is to good of a Mom to make the sacrifices to her family that it would take both financially and time wise.
It always makes me feel terrible when I have tension between either of the girls, I made sure that I double checked with Bob whether I had been in a bitchie mood (I was feeling pretty good last week so I didn't think so) one thing with Bob he's very quick to tell me if I'm bitchie LOL.
I think the mistake that I made was thinking I should step back from the business issue until she had really decided what she wanted to do and she perceived that in a different way, somehow that I was not being supportive. The irony is that she posted on facebook that she was closing the store except for a few sales before she bothered to tell me, certainly I did think that was an indication she wanted me to back off.
